Worst Enemy Vs. Best Friend

What has happened to mother/daughter relationships? What has happened to the days of the past where mothers taught their daughters how to be polite young women, good wives, and great mothers? What has happened to the friendship between a mother and her daughter? My entire life there is nothing more I have ever wanted than to have that type of mother. My mom and I have always had a different type of relationship. It isn't a bad one but it isn't how I picture my relationship with my daughter at all. My mom and dad divorced when I was very small and that was a rough experience for everyone involved. It wasn't a civil divorce by no means. I think if the divorce wouldn't have happened they would have eventually killed each other. My relationship with both of my parents has been rocky on and off through my life. My mom wasn't there for a lot of important events because she lived in a different state. But, I know she wanted to be. My father, he was always always there, never missed a single game I cheered at or a choir concert. He was always there. My parents are like 2 opposite ends of parenting. My mom was like my best friend but not a parent, my dad was a great parent but my worst enemy. My step mom taught me how to be a good wife and how to take care of our home and how to cook and clean. Although the cooking runs in my blood :) we are excellent cooks in my family. My step father called me his little girl and treated me like a princess and I never had rules. I had to find a good balance between the two very different types of parenting to make me who I am today. My fear is that I will either be Kadence's worst enemy or her best friend. I am worried I won't be able to find the balance between the two. Everyone says that instinct will kick in and I will really surprise myself and for once, I hope everyone else is right.